It’s February 2019, just over a month now since we moved from Asheville, NC to Pawtucket, RI. We live just on the border of Providence in an area of Pawtucket known as Oak Hill. The days seem dark and it is very cold. I sometimes think we’ve moved to Canada as the temperature outside seems much colder than when we lived in Prague, Czech Republic. We’ve chosen this time to follow my husband’s career, leaving my development contract after it’s three year term was completed. Therefore, its a whole new world for me during this time of transferring my real estate license into Rhode Island via Massachusetts from North Carolina. Sounds like a complicated matter, it is, but we aren’t discussing that here.
The adjustment into being a temporary househusband has been, needless to say, strange and at times isolating. Luckily, I’ve done the moving part before and am always over prepared for a move. The trucks arrived in Asheville to a fully organized home and it was unloaded in the same fashion in Pawtucket. The difference here is that now I actually have time to do the unpacking and reorganizing after the movers have left. We actually have the luxury of being out of boxes within days. I’ve managed to join a gym and it seems to be a good place to start making new friends. All in all, the relocation has gone without a hitch. I’m enjoying getting lost while driving around trying to find new things and places to see. Three things I can recommend to anyone moving or relocating to a different part of the country or the world as a trailing spouse.
- Choose your neighborhood wisely. This is essential in the relocation process. Make sure that your new home is in a vicinity that is accessible to work, fitness, shopping, and activities that you like. This makes for an easier way to meet new friends and develop a community.
- Get involved. Get involved with groups, clubs, and associations that you care about or have fun doing. This could be something like joining the bowling league, Rotary, a volunteer club, or a social club. By getting involved you will open yourselves to new things and new people.
- Take Risks. Try something new. If you’ve never taken yoga or gone to a mediation session, maybe it’s time you try it. You could also try something new like playing golf or who knows like going axe throwing. Whatever new things you choose to do will take you out of your comfort zone allowing new an interesting things to happen.
The most important thing to remember when relocating to a new place is to not sit isolated in your new home. Your spouse has a pre-set life at the office or place of employment. Although you have the luxury of taking your time to get started you need to take the bull by the horns and avoid sitting idle or making projects at home last longer than they should.
Follow my 3 easy steps above and you’ll be loving your new town or city within weeks.